I expected an engagement announcement. I've never seen parents announce the shacking-up arrangements of their grown children. I guess I'm old-fashioned.
Tom and I lived together before we got married and I honestly think the decision to do THAT was bigger than the decision to get married... probably because I knew that unless something went terribly wrong the decision to "shack up" WAS essentially a decision to get married. So I admit that I received their news with that perspective... and I AM excited for them -- and so glad they're living together before making any bigger decision! :-)
I feel like I should get them a housewarming present or something - even though Elisabeth has lived in her place, which they'll now be sharing, for three years!
I checked back because I figured someone who wouldn't reveal their name would disapprove. LOL
I feel the same way you do, Carol. I hope my children live with someone before they marry. It worked for us- and pretty much every one of my friends. :)
What a beautiful couple! And "shaking up?" Bwa-ha-ha-ha! Yes, John and I did, too, for over 2 years. And my 74-year-old FATHER is currently shacking up! Marriage is a huge decision, so it really does need to be tested. Hooray for them!
Much more stable relationships occur in cultures that "shack up" than those where people get married too quickly, too young and too often. And Anon. no one says "shack up" any more! :)
FTR, Shacking up is commonly heard on Dr. Laura radio show. I'm not a fan of "shacking up", but don't need to post anonymously. Carol has known me online for years and probably knows that anyway. I think what is really lacking in our society is the commitment in relationships - in good times AND bad times. I've gone through difficult periods of my life and am thankful that my husband stuck with me through those times.
I hope the best for Elizabeth and her boyfriend. He's cute and those curls - wow!!!
HomeJewel and I have known each other online since the late 90's when we both posted (sometimes very argumentatively!) on an AOL "childbirth options" message board. Although we've disagreed on many topics over the years, we are more similar than we are different (because we are both devoted moms and we both care about families), and I have come to hugely admire and respect JulieAnne and her opinion is important to me.
Sounds good--and cheaper!! :)
ReplyDeleteIt's a big step- congrats to them! :)
ReplyDeleteLynn
I expected an engagement announcement. I've never seen parents announce the shacking-up arrangements of their grown children. I guess I'm old-fashioned.
ReplyDeleteTom and I lived together before we got married and I honestly think the decision to do THAT was bigger than the decision to get married... probably because I knew that unless something went terribly wrong the decision to "shack up" WAS essentially a decision to get married. So I admit that I received their news with that perspective... and I AM excited for them -- and so glad they're living together before making any bigger decision! :-)
ReplyDeleteI feel like I should get them a housewarming present or something - even though Elisabeth has lived in her place, which they'll now be sharing, for three years!
Carol
I checked back because I figured someone who wouldn't reveal their name would disapprove. LOL
ReplyDeleteI feel the same way you do, Carol. I hope my children live with someone before they marry. It worked for us- and pretty much every one of my friends. :)
Lynn
hahaha "shacking-up"...it's written as if a very dirty word.
ReplyDeletebut it's great news and I think an essential step before getting married. Congratulations to the young couple!
What a beautiful couple! And "shaking up?" Bwa-ha-ha-ha! Yes, John and I did, too, for over 2 years. And my 74-year-old FATHER is currently shacking up! Marriage is a huge decision, so it really does need to be tested. Hooray for them!
ReplyDeleteEr, I meant "shacking up"....
ReplyDeleteMuch more stable relationships occur in cultures that "shack up" than those where people get married too quickly, too young and too often. And Anon. no one says "shack up" any more! :)
ReplyDeleteFTR, Shacking up is commonly heard on Dr. Laura radio show. I'm not a fan of "shacking up", but don't need to post anonymously. Carol has known me online for years and probably knows that anyway. I think what is really lacking in our society is the commitment in relationships - in good times AND bad times. I've gone through difficult periods of my life and am thankful that my husband stuck with me through those times.
ReplyDeleteI hope the best for Elizabeth and her boyfriend. He's cute and those curls - wow!!!
HomeJewel and I have known each other online since the late 90's when we both posted (sometimes very argumentatively!) on an AOL "childbirth options" message board. Although we've disagreed on many topics over the years, we are more similar than we are different (because we are both devoted moms and we both care about families), and I have come to hugely admire and respect JulieAnne and her opinion is important to me.
ReplyDeleteThanks for your NON-anonymous comment, HomeJewel!
Carol